| The issues in front of a single
parent are far from encouraging. It is not only an arduous task
to fend for the child all by yourself but the trauma and memories
of the past haunt like a nightmare. And dating definitely is not
in the agenda or may not even feature in the priority list. While
parenting is one of the most wonderful tasks for an adult, come
to think of it, you need not confine yourself to that single activity
only ! You are something more than just a parent. You are a thinking,
dreaming adult who has romantic ideas, sexual desires and who
has an implicit need for meaningful adult company. If you ignore
that, you are losing a vital part of yourself too.
Dating or seeking company in the opposite sex is not only natural
and healthy for you but also for your children. They come to know
you as a happy, complete parent, whether mom or dad, and not a
sulking, depressed individual. More over, you are setting an example
in front of them, to follow, when they grow up and look for someone
to date.
Here are 5 important dos and don’ts which may help you in becoming
a safe, happy and successful single doting and dating parent !
1. Do not spring the idea of dating suddenly on your kids. Introduce
the concept gradually, emphasizing that this is something all
adults do.
2. Do not bring your kids with you on every date. Remember that
dating is a time for you – as an adult. It's okay to take time
away for yourself.
3. Do not allow your children's concerns to rule over your actions.
Do listen to their concerns, but be clear that this is not something
for them to decide.
4. Never ask your kids to keep your dating life a secret. Create
an atmosphere of open, honest communication – and make sure to
include your ex-partner so your kids don't feel confused or torn
between loyalties.
5. Do make it easy and uncomplicated for them. Make it look natural
and comfortable with frank and sincere communication.
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